Comments on: My way is the best way! http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/ Zen minded Minimalism in the Western world Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:40:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: The Great Clashing of Closed Minds http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/#comment-7509 The Great Clashing of Closed Minds Fri, 29 Oct 2010 18:51:11 +0000 http://mindthebeginner.wordpress.com/?p=1272#comment-7509 [...] I don’t understand closed minds like these. Why wouldn’t people want to change the negative things in life and strive for better things? Why stay in the same place if there are ways to get out? Then again. I could be terribly wrong here and should be put back in my place. Who am I to act like I’m superior! [...] [...] I don’t understand closed minds like these. Why wouldn’t people want to change the negative things in life and strive for better things? Why stay in the same place if there are ways to get out? Then again. I could be terribly wrong here and should be put back in my place. Who am I to act like I’m superior! [...]

]]> By: Ricky Buchanan http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/#comment-443 Ricky Buchanan Fri, 14 Aug 2009 13:41:36 +0000 http://mindthebeginner.wordpress.com/?p=1272#comment-443 So true! The things that annoy me most about other people are often related to things that I want to change about myself. If I get annoyed about my flatmate's use of money it's often because I realise (somewhere inside) that I've spent too much recently. When I get annoyed that he's home late it's because I want to be able to go out at all. Now the spending is something under my control - I can do better next time. Unfortunately the inability to go out isn't something I can change so I'm learning the other thing you mentioned - just letting it go. That's hard! I've noticed something about Zen and meditation and a lot of the stuff you write - that it's simple but <em>not</em> easy. In the way meditation is simple - "just focus on your breathing" and "just spend 20 minutes a day" - but that's NOT easy to do. And dealing with frustration is simple - "just let it go" - but that's NOT easy to do. Have you written about the simple-but-not-easy yet? I'd love to see a post addressing how these things are easy to intellectually comprehend but so dammed hard and practice-needing before you can do them well! r So true! The things that annoy me most about other people are often related to things that I want to change about myself.

If I get annoyed about my flatmate’s use of money it’s often because I realise (somewhere inside) that I’ve spent too much recently. When I get annoyed that he’s home late it’s because I want to be able to go out at all.

Now the spending is something under my control – I can do better next time. Unfortunately the inability to go out isn’t something I can change so I’m learning the other thing you mentioned – just letting it go. That’s hard!

I’ve noticed something about Zen and meditation and a lot of the stuff you write – that it’s simple but not easy. In the way meditation is simple – “just focus on your breathing” and “just spend 20 minutes a day” – but that’s NOT easy to do. And dealing with frustration is simple – “just let it go” – but that’s NOT easy to do. Have you written about the simple-but-not-easy yet? I’d love to see a post addressing how these things are easy to intellectually comprehend but so dammed hard and practice-needing before you can do them well!

r

]]> By: Christiaan http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/#comment-442 Christiaan Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:21:21 +0000 http://mindthebeginner.wordpress.com/?p=1272#comment-442 Ah yes, a truly magnificent mantra Carl "We don't care what you think!". Somehow I do think the world would be a better place if we all stopped caring so much about what other people think and just do what we want to be doing. Überslacker ;) Ah yes, a truly magnificent mantra Carl “We don’t care what you think!”. Somehow I do think the world would be a better place if we all stopped caring so much about what other people think and just do what we want to be doing.

Überslacker ;)

]]> By: Carl http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/#comment-441 Carl Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:16:14 +0000 http://mindthebeginner.wordpress.com/?p=1272#comment-441 Ha! I slack in the best way possible cause obviously what I do is the right way to do things ;) Yes, slacking is both one of my downfalls and my strengths. I know so many people who live at a level of stress that is exceptionally foreign to me. I can't deal with that constant on-edge and my mantra of not caring gets me through most of my stressful situations. However it can also keep me from getting things done that I should be. Ha! I slack in the best way possible cause obviously what I do is the right way to do things ;)

Yes, slacking is both one of my downfalls and my strengths. I know so many people who live at a level of stress that is exceptionally foreign to me. I can’t deal with that constant on-edge and my mantra of not caring gets me through most of my stressful situations. However it can also keep me from getting things done that I should be.

]]> By: *pol http://www.mindthebeginner.net/2009/08/my-way-is-the-best-way/#comment-440 *pol Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:02:07 +0000 http://mindthebeginner.wordpress.com/?p=1272#comment-440 oh that is SO TRUE! I hate whiners.... (but I still love to whine to anyone that will listen). Clutter in other's homes makes me anxious... (but my very productive home-office is a death trap of teetering piles of useless papers). My car has been broken into a few times over the years, and the ways I have perceived the crime each time are drastically different. The first time, I felt "the victim" that had been violated by someone rummaging in the glove box, I felt unsafe and it was several weeks of woah and misery in my life. Another time it was an annoying inconvenience that kept haunting me everytime I wanted to play the CD that was stolen, the anger appeared only when I was reminded of the loss. Yet another time I was temporarily annoyed at how inconciderate those jerks were for messing up my car! And the last time it happened (many years ago now) I found it truly funny that some poor knob was desperate enough to pilfer through my crumby car-crap and even go so far as to remove my truly terrible Mastercraft Tape Deck!!! I felt more a sarcastic underlying pity that time and it affected me no more than 2 minutes.... I wonder what that all means about my human mirror? oh that is SO TRUE!

I hate whiners…. (but I still love to whine to anyone that will listen). Clutter in other’s homes makes me anxious… (but my very productive home-office is a death trap of teetering piles of useless papers).

My car has been broken into a few times over the years, and the ways I have perceived the crime each time are drastically different.
The first time, I felt “the victim” that had been violated by someone rummaging in the glove box, I felt unsafe and it was several weeks of woah and misery in my life.
Another time it was an annoying inconvenience that kept haunting me everytime I wanted to play the CD that was stolen, the anger appeared only when I was reminded of the loss. Yet another time I was temporarily annoyed at how inconciderate those jerks were for messing up my car!
And the last time it happened (many years ago now) I found it truly funny that some poor knob was desperate enough to pilfer through my crumby car-crap and even go so far as to remove my truly terrible Mastercraft Tape Deck!!! I felt more a sarcastic underlying pity that time and it affected me no more than 2 minutes….
I wonder what that all means about my human mirror?

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