Posts Tagged ‘discomfort’

The Sleeper must awaken

Posted in Beginner's fears, Skills and habits on October 5th, 2009 by Christiaan – 9 Comments

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Last Friday I had a quick 6 tweet chat with Cath Duncan from Mineyourresources about the concepts of learning, change and discomfort. It put me on a train of thought that also brought to mind a quote I posted earlier from Leito Atreides (yes, Dune):

Without change something sleeps inside us, and seldom awakens. The sleeper must awaken.

Cath and I agreed that when you know how your mind & body habitually reacts to change,  and don’t fear that, then change can be quite comfortable. In that case it’s called learning and the more discomfort of mind & body you can endure the more you learn.

Or in other words, wake up that sleeper, hand him a strong cup of coffee and snap to it.

Somewhere down the line learning got a bad taste to it. Learning was something you did in school and was no fun at all. The same went for reading, an activity related to learning and so it’s no fun. That you’re reading this blog tells me that you at least don’t mind reading and probably have no hard feelings against learning as well.

Learning however, is giving your mind a really hard time. All those new things it’s got to master, making sence of things that seem nonsensical on all fronts except what our higher reasoning thinks about it. But our brain does not get that. Take learning to play the guitar for instance. You know you want to make music, all your brain gets is that you’re trying to make your fingers do things it’s not used to do and it hurts your fingertips. Anyone in their right mind would not do something that they know will inflict pain or other forms of discomfort. It takes some effort to get your brain to do those things that are outside its comfort zone.

See your brain a bit like a muscle. Or rather, see it exactly like a muscle. If you use it and push it, it will get stronger. Using your brain can be done in a lot of ways of course. Take your pick:

  • Learn a new language
  • Play an instrument
  • Go an entire day without using your dominant hand
  • Try a new type of food
  • Start a blog
  • Read a good book
  • Rearrange all the furniture in your room
  • Take up caligraphy
  • Install a different OS on your computer
  • Break a habit
  • Take up touch typing (for the pro’s: on a Dvorak or Colemak layout)
  • Basically anything that will change the status quo

The status quo is the sleeper

Keep the brain awake and always find new ways to make your brain a bit uncomfortable. It can handle it and will adapt.

26 Ways to increase your Comfort Zone

Posted in Skills and habits on August 19th, 2009 by Christiaan – 7 Comments

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Today I’d like to present you with a long list of things to increase your comfort zone. But before we have a look at that, I’m sure you’re wondering why in Buddha’s name would you want to do that. After all, you’re sitting there in your comfy chair, air conditioning, coffee at hand and not a care in the world. Nice little plush bubble your in, nice and safe.

Now, let’s have a small experiment before we begin with the list. What if the air conditioning failed on you right now and slowly the temperature starts to rise. Quickly it will become less comfortable right? You’re used to room temperature and now it’s very warm here indeed. You’re uncomfortable, perhaps sweating a bit.A single drop of sweat starts rolling down your back.

If this never happened to you before that single drop of sweat might just make you want to take a shower right away. It’s ” icky” or whatever… or at least, you do your best to avoid such things (even though sweating is human) and so this is definitely uncomfortable. What if someone can smell your body odor?! Hell on earth for some people.

But what is it exactly, a single small drop of fluid slowly making it’s way down your back. Is that really so terrible? When taking a shower you’ve got millions of drops. Get the idea? You’re not comfortable with a single drop, even though it’s not the end of the world. It won’t matter in a few hours let alone in a week or so. Don’t make such a big deal out of something small.

The list

To get more comfortable I suggest looking for slight discomfort every now and then and here are a lot of ideas:

  1. Postpone  showering for a day
  2. Turn of the air conditioning
  3. Do NOT drink that coffee
  4. Sleep a few hours less for several nights
  5. Turn off the TV
  6. Turn off the PC
  7. Turn off ALL power for a day
  8. Limit your food to just bread and water for a day
  9. Under-dress/”forget” your jacket
  10. Leave the car in the driveway and take the bike
  11. Leave your mobile phone at home
  12. Same goes for laptop/iPod
  13. For 30 seconds, run as fast as you can. (not as fast as you think you can)
  14. Don’t sit down if standing is possible
  15. Get off the bus a stop earlier
  16. Drink nothing but water for a week
  17. Don’t eat until your stomach has growled for an hour at least
  18. Sleep on the floor
  19. Take a short walk, barefoot
  20. Eat something you’ve never eaten before
  21. Drink something you’ve never drank before
  22. Take a cold shower
  23. Lie down on the floor in a public place
  24. Cut all your nails short
  25. If you’re a clean freak, make a huge mess
  26. If you live in a pig pen, clean up

I could go on endlessly but what I’m actually talking about is: Do something you normally don’t do, experience something new, explore your discomforts and inflict them upon yourself. Right now you have the choice to do those things. Next time the air conditioning breaks down, that single drop won’t phase you if you’ve experienced it before and know it’s not a big deal.

An exercise in discomfort

And now an extreme challenge in comfort, try the following:

Grab your backpack and pack a change of clothes, a toothbrush and perhaps a book. (No laptop, other electronics or food) Do this all in less than 5 minutes.

Now walk out the door, close it, and don’t go back inside your home for at least 48 hours. If this is too easy for you, I’ve got four aditional levers for you:

  1. Get away longer than 48 hours, let’s say 72
  2. No hotel/motel or other payed place to sleep
  3. Leave all types of money behind, you’re not allowed to spend a cent
  4. No contact with anyone you know

Of course, if you level up, the restrictions of the previous level still apply. I dare you, give it a go.

Over time people get all to comfortable and become afraid of things that only a few decades ago were daily life. Get out of that comfort-bubble and refuse to get back in. If it’s comfortable it’s potentially dangerous, anything comfortable will have power over you if you don’t watch out.

Good luck and enjoy the discomfort

Why we hurt ourselves, the effects of hormones on our well-being

Posted in Skills and habits on May 20th, 2009 by Christiaan – 13 Comments

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As therapist I often told people who were depressed to just go and take a walk. Preferably with a little bit of fire in their pace. You have no idea how many people have looked at me strangely for suggesting that they take a hike.

If you are a runner you probably know why, but if you are not a runner have you ever asked yourself why these people go through such lengths to run? They actually enjoy running a marathon for instance and beating their body up. Strange behavior, but according to Darwinian beliefs it must have some sort of benefit.

It has got everything to do with certain types of hormones in our body. Something closely related to morphine and cocaine: endorphins.

Receptors

It was back in1972 when scientists began to question how and why opiates influenced the brain. After some hypothesising and experimenting they came to the conclusion that the body must have receptors to handle this stuff and make us feel like we do when getting a morphine shot. After that shot the body wanted more of course. But why would the body have such receptors if the body couldn’t make that substance by itself?

Turns out that the body has these receptors because it does make it’s own drugs. A substance that in the right amount causes pain to subside, moods to lift an give you a general “on to of the world” feeling. Substituting this stuff with i.e. morphine will make the body produce less of it so in time we need more morphine to keep the levels up.

After running for about 10 minutes these hormones start to kick in. The first ten minutes of running are agony but after that the pain goes away and we start feeling better with every step. It’s sometimes called as the “runner’s high” and it’s one of the biggest reason people take up running. The same goes for dancing and meditating.

Agony and discomfort

Meditation isn’t necessarily an eastern invention. It was not so long ago that Christians would kneel on a hard floor for an extended period of time to be alone with their thoughts about God. Muslims pray five times each day with nothing more to sit on than a small rug. Imagine the pain they have in their knees each time.

People do this to feel better about themselves and I can tell you it does work. Why? What do running, prostrations or sitting perfectly still in a lotus position have in common? The agony, the bodily discomfort of this action and at the same time the programming of the body.

If the body is in pain it will react in one of two ways (I’m simplifying here). Either it releases adrenaline, or endorphin. It all depends on what outcome we expect. If fighting and running away is in order we’ll get adrenaline. But if we expect a positive outcome and know the current hardship is just temporary and something we need to get trough we get a shot of endorphins.

The body provides it’s own fix in order to make the hardship more pleasurable. The effect on us is that we feel better and have less pain. The longer and bigger the hardship we endure while knowing things will be alright the more endorphins will be released.

Thus, accomplishing a marathon gives a greater high than a five mile jog.

There are roughly four situations in which the body produces endorphins:

  1. In general when we feel good
  2. When we are subjected to suffering (physically or mentally)
  3. When we sleep or rest
  4. When we find ourselves in a new and unusual but non threatening situation

Ritualized self-torture

Say you meditate every day for twenty minutes. You hit a small chime to let everyone in the house know you are meditation, you light some incense and contort your body into a highly uncomfortable lotus position and sit perfectly still while counting your breaths slowly. Your knees will start to hurt like hell, your back will tighten, your butt might start aching from the firm pillow you are sitting on. To sum it up, ritualized self-torture. And then the twenty minutes are up and you unfold yourself and stagger back to the living room for a cup of tea while having a huge smile on your face.

Notice how many things in this ritual hurt you and how many things can be used as cues. After a few months of doing this any one of the cues by itself will trigger a Pavlovian reaction in your body. The smell of incense will get those glands secreting endorphins like there is no tomorrow an the chime triggers a flood. So far so good. And now the real power: Counting your breaths will also trigger endorphin production.

Although you don’t have a chime with you everywhere and people on your cubicle farm might not like you if you start putting up an incense smokescreen you can always count breaths and trigger the response that calms you down and makes you feel good.

Imagine that, when entering a boardroom or waiting in a traffic jam and feeling yourself get irritated. Use the cue and get a quick fix of happy hormones.

Why?

So why do people hurt themselves? To get these happy hormones pumping. Seriously, scientists have administered naloxone to runners (A drug that prevents the receptors in the brain from receive endorphins) and in just a few runs these people no longer felt the urge to run anymore. It didn’t feel good because they didn’t experience the runner’s high anymore.

Although there are many ways to get these hormones to be released into our bloodstream (like eating chocolate) there are few so effective as ritualized self-torture. Every religion on earth has picked up on this long ago and practices it in one form or the other.

If a therapist tells you to take a hike, please do take the hike, and put some fire in your pace. You’ll feel better afterwards.